I was a happy woman when I married Dayo. Five years into the marriage, there was no child, not even a miscarriage. My husband’s family with time, had started referring to me as an empty groundnut shell.
I wept not because of the insults, but for the fact that every time
I visited friends and saw their children play around, I was reminded of my sorrow.
Dayo told me that he loved me no matter what but I still wept at night.
A year later, I missed my period and I started noticing changes in my body.
Finally, I was pregnant or so I thought. In the third
month, my period came and with it tears. I went to see the doctor and he
called it a pseudo pregnancy. I will tell you the way he explained it
to me but in much simpler terms.
Pseudo-cyesis or pseudo-pregnancy is a condition in which a woman
experiences real pregnancy symptoms when she is not pregnant. It is
believed to be caused by changes in the endocrine system of the
body, causing release of hormones that produce physical symptoms of
pregnancy. The common cause in our society is anxiety about pregnancy
and the emotional desire to get pregnant. The woman may be surrounded
by pregnant friends and relatives so her desire to get pregnant may
manifest in a pseudo-pregnancy. Women prone to pseudo-pregnancy are
usually women in their late thirties, women married without
children, women that have had a miscarriage or lost a child and women
that want children.
The symptoms of pseudo-pregnancy are regular pregnancy symptoms like
cessation of menstruation, swollen breasts, distended abdomen, morning
sickness and cravings. The most important symptom is that the woman believes she is
pregnant even though pregnancy tests may say otherwise.
The solution is for the woman to relax and take her mind off the
Pseudo-pregnancy. If she is experiencing difficulties getting
pregnant, fertility treatments can be administered. I found out after a
series of tests that I had a uterine infection. After the
treatment, Dapo and I went on a vacation. I came back pregnant and I had
my daughter after seven years of marriage. I am no more the empty
Written by: Gimbiya Galadima